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One of Russia’s most important holidays is New Year’s. When Christmas was outlawed in the Soviet Union, many of its related customs were transferred to New Year. It became a special day for gathering family and friends around the (New Year’s) tree, gift-giving, and overeating. While Christmas has returned to the calendar, New Year has not yet lost its place. Here are some of Russia’s greatest New Year’s customs, ranging from Father Frost to Herring in Fur Coats.

Begin the year with a thorough cleaning

On New Year’s Day in Russia, people traditionally forgive those who have mistreated them, settle their debts, and clean up their homes. Many Russians will start the year with a clean body and soul in addition to cleaning the house by scheduling a banya, or at the absolute least, taking a really hot bath on December 31.

Banyas are an essential component of Russian culture. They usually consist of a steam chamber with wooden benches around the outside and an altar-style bench in the center of the room for treatments. The therapy entails being thrashed by huge birch leaves before being submerged in an ice-cold bucket or pool. People in Siberia have historically preferred to lay on the snow rather than immerse themselves in frigid water.

Watching a screwball comedy is a must

Every year, millions of Russians tune in to see The Irony of Fate, a 1976 Soviet screwball comedy. In the film, Zhenya intends to spend New Year’s Eve with his girlfriend, but after getting drunk with his friends at the Sanduny Baths, he finds up on a flight to St. Petersburg instead. He drunkenly orders a cab to what he believes is his house, only to be awakened by Nadya. We won’t give away the finale.

Prepare to meet Ded Moroz (Father Frost)

Ded Moroz, often known as Father Frost, is Russia’s version of Santa Claus. Unlike Santa, he usually appears on New Year’s Eve with gifts for well-behaved youngsters. He dresses in a long blue or red fur coat, a matching cap, and felt boots, and carries gifts on his back in a large sack. He doesn’t, however, require reindeer to move about. As an athletic Russian guy, he travels the nation on skis, treks, or by troika carriage. He also carries a mystical stick with which he can freeze anything around him. And, unlike Santa, he doesn’t sneak about at night; instead, he’s eager to reveal his face and drop by a Christmas party to deliver presents.

His granddaughter Snegurichka, the Snow Maiden, is also attending. She frequently has a long blond braid and wears a blue and white fur coat. Grandfather Frost reportedly resides outside of the Vologda Region, close to Veliky Ustyug, while she apparently resides in Kostroma, on the Volga river.

Your wish will not come true until you complete the following three steps…

Thinking about what you want to happen next year isn’t going to cut it in Russia. You must put up much effort to ensure that your dream becomes a reality. To begin, write it down on a piece of paper. Then you must burn it. Then, pour the ashes into a glass of champagne and take a large sip.

 Salad to celebrate

If you’ve ever visited Russia, you’ll know that salads are a huge thing. Not the light leaf sort, but robust meals with at least a kilogram of mayonnaise – and New Year’s Eve is no exception. The ‘Olivier Salad’ (prepared with mayo, potatoes, carrots, green peas, eggs, and chicken) and the ‘Herring under Fur Coat’ are two of the most common salads on the menu (layered herring, potatoes, carrots, beetroot, and mayonnaise).

Champagne – generally the Sovietskoye variety – and caviar served on buttered toast are other favorite feasting foods. Surprisingly, mandarin oranges are also a favorite. The custom dates back to Nicholas II, but it was only in the late 1970s that the Soviet authorities began importing them.

Double the fun!

In Russia, there are two New Year’s Eves. According to the Orthodox or Julian calendar, the ‘Old’ New Year’s Eve is on January 14th. This event is generally significantly smaller than the first. The ‘New’ New Year’s Eve, like the rest of the Western world, occurs on December 31st. The ancient celebrations have now been surpassed as the most significant day in the calendar.

It became a holiday only when Russia moved from the Julian calendar to the Gregorian calendar. Christmas was prohibited during the Soviet era, thus New Year’s Eve became the day to celebrate.

Despite its many advantages—convenience, simplicity, and speed—texting is still communicating in a vacuum. Yes, any digital discussion may send a message from one person to another, but without the natural aspects of body language and facial expression present in an in-person conversation, or even the tone and honesty that can be heard in a phone call, the words of a text can lack vital context and complexity. It’s possible for an essential texting interaction to sound robotic, inhuman…or, at the absolute least, dry unless you seek to fill that contextual hole with additional words or emoticons.

Dry texting is now used to describe any text exchange in which one of the parties relies solely on one- or two-word replies to maintain the discussion. It can be more bothersome when communicating through text because the recipient has no additional background to determine the texter’s interest or thinking, unlike when speaking in person or on the phone. Dry texting (e.g., “yes,” “cool,” “that’s ok”) without nonverbal social indicators might make the recipient uncertain of their position and the tone of the message.

To bridge that communication gap, it’s become increasingly typical for people to pad text messages with things like “lol” and emoticons, both of which help color how a text-sender truly feels. In fact, according to a 2017 poll of 2,000 individuals in the United States, 71% utilize visual expressions such as emojis, stickers, and GIFs in their communications. A 2022 poll of 1,000 remote and hybrid employees in the United States found that seven out of ten felt communication is incomplete without an emoji. All of this serves to highlight the dry texters: The bare-bones design might be seen as a purposeful choice to exclude information, especially in light of the explosion of visual tools and linguistic developments that allow texts to have a deeper, more human tone.

So, what should you do with the dry texters you meet while dating online? Below are some insights on why Slavic women you connect with on international dating sites may engage in dry texting in the first place (to help you understand where they’re coming from), why it may be so irritating on the receiving end, and what you can do to enliven those dry chats.

Why would a Slavic lady send dry text messages in the first place?

It’s natural to question what a woman is concealing or withholding and why when she chooses to communicate by text simply the bare minimum. The reason someone is dry texting, though, may have more to do with them than the discussion, say dating experts.

First off, it’s always possible that a Slavic lady is truly too busy to add more complexity to her texts, or that she simply believes texting should be kept for only the most basic of communications. She might not even be aware that her texts could be perceived as soulless or robotic in that situation. She suspects that these simple communications come across as a lot friendlier in her brain than they do in reality. On a deeper level, she may struggle with text communication to the point that she only feels comfortable providing brief replies. Dry texters may be socially anxious and have difficulty articulating their thoughts and feelings in writing.

Aside from personal reasons, the dry texting might be a reflection of how a Slavic lady perceives your relationship. A woman who is hesitant to put any genuine effort into the conversation—and, by implication, the relationship—might send dry messages. It might be her attempt to distance herself from you by preventing effective communication.

How to spice up your interactions with a Slavic lady who is dry texting you

Before you get into strategies for encouraging a dry-texting lady to be more conversational, it’s crucial to connect with her and ask a few questions, like if she genuinely enjoys texting and has time to text anytime you’ve reached out to her. If the answer to either question is “no,” you’d be better off figuring out a communication “middle ground” in which you text less and she responds with greater passion.

It may also be good in this chat with the dry-texting Slavic lady to explicitly state how her present communication style is being perceived by you. She may be unaware that her texting style is making you feel unheard or unloved, and understanding this may motivate her to be more verbose in her responses.

You may then establish clear communication standards about texting so that you’re both on the same page. For example, you may decide that one-letter, one-word, and/or one-emoji comments are unacceptable to you and that you will leave the discussion if you get them.

You may also model the type of messaging you’d like to receive and construct your own texts around topics that tend to elicit interaction, such as photographs, gifs, or even voice notes. Similarly, you may send articles or links to social media posts that made you think of her, as well as ask open-ended questions, which often get fuller and more involved answers.

In any regard, it’s crucial to remember that texting is still only one mode of communication—and a fundamentally flawed one at that. If a Slavic woman can’t or won’t compensate for the lack of nuance that texting brings, it’s all the more incentive to communicate with her in other ways more regularly.

A new relationship with a Slavic lady is exhilarating, and that is an understatement. The butterflies, the flutters, the period where you are discovering everything fresh about the other person—totally appealing. And if you’re like most men, you’ll want to tell your buddies everything immediately. After all, who can give you better counsel than your friends?

You could also wish to publish photos of yourself with your Slavic girlfriend on social media as you get closer. In addition to being a chance to spread your happiness, captions may demonstrate your affection for her and uplift her spirits.

Would you be puzzled or offended if your Slavic girlfriend didn’t post about you on her social profiles? You may wonder whether the absence of a hard launch on Instagram indicates that she does not want to be with you.

There is a new online dating term that defines and explains her conduct called “pocketing”. “Pocketing” is the catchphrase for avoiding disclosing your relationship or the person you’ve been seeing on social media. In other words, pocketing is “keeping your partner in your pocket,” so to speak.

If your Slavic girlfriend hasn’t tweeted about you but is otherwise an active social media member, she might be pocketing you. Almost everyone these days is on social media, where we upload images of our life, friends, family, pets, and even what we ate for lunch. So, if the lady you’re dating is active on social media but doesn’t exhibit any traces of your existence, you might be getting pocketed.

What if, though, you haven’t been dating for a while? When was the right time for your Slavic girlfriend to write about you online? No, there is no hard and fast rule, but if she hasn’t written about you after you two have had “the talk” and started dating officially, she may be pocketing.

The practice of “pocketing” extends beyond social media and is as prevalent offline. When one partner in a relationship isolates the other from their friends and family, this is referred to as pocketing. Additionally, if you bring up family or friends, your Slavic woman can dodge the subject, discourage you from seeing their loved ones, and only create arrangements for the two of you.

The motives for pocketing are rather alarming

As you may expect, pocketing isn’t a good sign. But, before you worry, keep in mind that some of the motives for the behavior are more harmless than others. And, in most circumstances, their pocketing is not triggered by you.

Personal motives for pocketing are typically more prevalent than ones particular to you. People frequently pocket their partners because they have had negative experiences in the past. Understandable, to be sure, but it doesn’t diminish the impact of their actions on you.

What to do if your Slavic lady is pocketing you?

When you regard pocketing as a problem, and your Slavic girlfriend is unable to speak it out and compromise with you, you have a problem. If you want to upload a picture of the two of you showing off your lovely life together and she stops you, it’s time to rethink your relationship. It’s normal if you’re hesitant about discussing this issue with her. Just keep in mind that you are not doing anything wrong or asking for too much. Speak out if your Slavic girlfriend’s conduct continues to bother you. You’re absolutely correct. You, like her, are an active participant in this relationship. Tell her that you want to be visually reflected in her life both publicly and privately.

However, there are certain possible warning flags when it comes to pocketing. It might indicate a problem with the Slavic woman’s transparency—what is she withholding from you? She may, for example, be dishonest about her goals or expectations. Perhaps she wants to keep things casual or date other guys, and adding you to her grid would take away their space. Perhaps your Slavic lady isn’t serious about you. Simply put, some people do not want the person with whom they are in a relationship to socialize with other people in their lives. Why? Perhaps because they don’t respect or care enough about them to do so.

Use the “I statements” gently to avoid making your Slavic woman feel assaulted. “I think you don’t like the notion of my seeing your friends and family,” for example. Do you want to talk about it?” or “I’m a little concerned that I haven’t met your friends/family yet. If you’re ready, I’d want to talk about it.” Prepare to listen and collaborate on the problem.

Take note of how she reacts when you bring it up. Is she approachable and understanding? And does she demonstrate actual change? Or does she silence you? Pocketing becomes a problem when she refuses to talk about it despite your efforts to convey your worries about the matter. It’s very reasonable and acceptable to ask for your Slavic girlfriend to publicize you on social media or integrate you more fully into her life.

Finding yourself ghosted by a date is never pleasant, whether you’re dating online or off. However, it’s generally acknowledged that ghosting is among the most impolite dating practices. In reality, a 2019 poll reported that 30% of respondents had ghosted someone, while a 2020 poll claimed that 85% of respondents had been the victim of ghosting.

Ghosting is a definite no-no. So, if you’re not interested in the Slavic woman, you’ll have to admit it and offer you both closure. Being truthful helps you to go on since this lady now knows not to contact you again, and it also allows her to move on because she knows you are no longer interested. Dating experts advise having “a few pre-written scripts stored on your phone that you can send” when you’re no longer interested in developing a relationship.

What to say in these typical dating scenarios instead of ghosting?

If you simply aren’t ready for a relationship

Not in the mood for a romance right now? Don’t worry about it. Rather than being concerned about disappointing a Slavic lady, send her this message to let her know. You don’t have to give her a detailed explanation, so feel free to keep the letter brief.

What to tell a Slavic woman: “I’ve liked our conversations, but I’m recognizing that I’m not in a position to start a relationship. I want to be completely honest with you because I value your time. I hope you understand.”

If you feel like you need a break from international dating

Here’s another great text to send if you need a pause from international dating. It stops the communication loop while returning the emphasis to yourself. Consider this text to be creating a healthy boundary by ending the connection in a straightforward way while still being nice so the Slavic lady does not feel personally rejected.

What to tell a Slavic woman: “It’s been a pleasure getting to know you, but I’m going to take a break from international dating for the time being. It’s entirely my fault; I just need it. I wish you the best of luck!”

If you’re ready to move on

If you’ve been online dating a Slavic lady for a few months (but not exclusively) and no longer want to date her, dating experts recommend sending this anti-ghost text. While you may appreciate the lady, you may begin to have other priorities. With this in mind, a brief and simple message may go a long way.

What to tell a Slavic woman: “I have enjoyed our time together, and you have been so much pleasure to converse with. I wanted to be honest and tell you that I don’t see this going any further.”

If you like her… but only as a friend

If you have a completely platonic connection, dating gurus recommend sending this message. This text is good since it is straightforward and extends an open invitation to become friends, but only if the lady thinks it would be beneficial for her.

What to tell a Slavic woman: “It’s been a pleasure getting to know you. I’d rather be honest with you since I respect you so much. I’m not feeling a romantic connection. Please let me know if you are interested in being friends since I truly like you and would like to be your friend as well. However, I never want to give the incorrect impression. If not, that is also completely OK.”

If you’ve decided to go exclusive with another lady

Dating gurus advocate sending something like this if you meet a Slavic lady you are actually interested in and wish to stop things with other girls. Being direct is sometimes the kindest thing to do. You shouldn’t feel awful about it. This statement is a straightforward and courteous approach to end things so that the Slavic woman can continue dating freely.

What to tell a Slavic woman: “I recently started dating someone seriously and truly want to see things through. I really hope you find what you’re searching for and best wishes.”

Many men who have signed up on an international dating site feel afraid to start chatting with Slavic girls for fear of being rejected. Rejection is the action of not accepting, believing in or taking something into consideration. And although though rejection is something everyone experiences on some level—whether at work, in relationships, with friends, or elsewhere—it may still be painful and take time to digest before moving on.

People are wired for connection, and the connection is created via acceptance and belonging, so rejection may feel particularly personal. This is part of the reason why rejection can hurt so badly. But that’s just not true at all. Not only can you learn to not take rejection personally, but you can also strive to accept rejection as a redirection that may actually boost your self-esteem.

The first thing to realize about rejection is that it frequently happens to guys for reasons that are unrelated to them. All guys want to be loved, but you must realize that liking means having certain tastes. You evaluate a woman’s personality, values, and character when you first meet her in order to decide whether you want to be friends or partners with her in the future. In order to determine whether she is a good fit for your personality, values, and beliefs, you evaluate this based on your own measurements. You accept certain Slavic women and reject others since it is highly unlikely that every one of them will be a perfect fit for you.

In this sense, rejection is essentially a natural filter that we all use to varying degrees in our lives—you can’t be best friends with everyone you meet, for example. Even yet, the tendency to feel slighted when you’re the subject of rejection rather than the rejector is normal, and some people experience it more intensely than others. Those who are afraid of abandonment are one category of people who are more likely to take rejection personally than others. The good news is that there are mental tools available to assist you with this.

Give yourself credit

If you lack confidence, rejection may sting much more. In this scenario, to avoid taking women’s rejection personally, focus on increasing your confidence in yourself and your ability. You gain strength and resilience when you can validate yourself.

Let rid of childhood resentments

Dealing with rejection may often bring up unpleasant childhood memories of feeling abandoned, unwanted, and uncared for. This excursion to the past may be an indication that your inner child is seeking attention.

If this rings true for you, attempt the following exercise. Find a photo of your younger self and write a letter using this prompt: “Dear self, I want you to know that you are cared for and safeguarded. Here are some of the ways I’ve taken care of you throughout the years…”

Give yourself permission to try again

Being rejected might cause you to cut yourself off from new experiences, but doing so is harmful and counterproductive. After being rejected, it’s acceptable to get emotional and process your feelings, but make sure you also give yourself permission to try again. This is how we recover, advance, and change. Adversity cannot be avoided, but it may be used to your advantage to help you become more resilient and mentally strong when times are tough.

It can be necessary to seek within in order to come to terms with getting rejection and, critically, to realize that it is not personal. By doing this, you’ll be able to see that you’ve also rejected women and that your propensity to take rejection personally typically stems from underlying personal concerns. Accepting this fact will better prepare you to not take rejection personally and instead to understand that the lady just saw a mismatch in wants and beliefs and chose to be open rather than pressuring a relationship.

In this sense, rejection is a good thing since it only permits the most genuine two-way connections in all areas of life to flourish. As a result, no energy is lost on relationships with low or declining value.

A blow-out conflict in a relationship is simple to see and feel the consequences of. However, the tension generated by a Slavic lady instigating conflicts for no reason can be more pernicious. While you may be able to overcome these tiny conflicts as fast as they arise, over time, this squabbling may erode the quality of your relationship, producing a baseline level of tension that keeps you on edge in any encounter with your Slavic girlfriend.

Regardless of how meaningless these disputes appear, they frequently signal an underlying issue in the person selecting the fights or in the relationship. Unpacking the true reason why a woman may be creating arguments for seemingly little reasons will help you avoid falling down the rabbit hole of everything being a battle.

Below, we discuss the probable motives for a woman’s proclivity to pick conflicts about trivial or inconsequential issues, as well as recommendations for avoiding this type of dispute.

The most common reasons for your Slavic girlfriend picking fights seemingly without cause:

She craves connection

Picking a quarrel with someone, at the very least, gets their attention—which may be all that your girlfriend wants from you. If a woman feels lonely, unnoticed, or unimportant to her man, she may begin a quarrel in an attempt to connect.

She rejects the concept of genuine closeness

Despite how counterintuitive it may sound, some women may actually find it difficult to accept too much harmony. Harmony, after all, frequently encourages closeness, intimacy, and connection—with which many women are uneasy.

Perhaps your Slavic lady would prefer to avoid closeness than take the risk of confiding in you and risk feeling vulnerable. The best method to avoid this situation and keep oneself safe is to start conflicts for no apparent cause. It’s also conceivable that your Slavic lady is so frightened of having her heart broken if she gets too close to you that she creates random conflict to avoid it.

She wants to dominate the relationship

When it comes to self-sabotage… It’s also possible that a woman picks conflicts for no cause in order to maintain control of the relationship at all costs.

When things are going well, many women are uneasy. It makes them feel out of control and frightened as if the other shoe is always about to drop. When they argue, they engage their man on a different level, which makes them feel better since they are in control of the situation.

That is how she learned to communicate as a child

In certain situations, a woman may not even know that the small battles she is continually provoking are fights, especially if fighting was taught as normal communication behavior in her early home.

You learned the ‘proper way’ to talk, listen, and comprehend yourself by watching how your parents or siblings interacted with one another and with you. If your lady grew up in an atmosphere where grownups were always arguing with each other, she may have been taught that fighting is how you show others that you care, which may be why she’s continuing that behavior in your relationship.

How to deal with a Slavic lady who is always picking unnecessary conflicts?

It is critical to be empathetic from the start, no matter how tough that may be. Given the foregoing, your fight-starting woman may be suffering from loneliness, fear, or insecurity—all of which are feelings worthy of your consideration.

You may de-escalate the situation by first recognizing what emotion is causing her to initiate conflict in the first place. An argumentative lady may unconsciously expect you to solve the situation simply by reading her thoughts. Take a minute during the next fight that seems pointless to inquire about what is actually happening in order to avoid getting into this trap. Stop talking, express how you’re feeling, and then inquire as to how she is feeling.

Your Slavic lady may first rebuff or strike back defensively, but by continuing to express your own feelings, you can encourage her to do the same. Keep in mind that most battles are picked up unintentionally. Asking her to name an emotion again can successfully pull her into the present, even though she probably isn’t aware that she’s doing it.

If she expresses emotion, you may perhaps react to it and relate to it rather than continue to argue about the superficial issue that sparked the fight in the first place. In this manner, you two may have a fruitful discussion that gives you both a chance to work on your relationship. In that context, you’re not blaming your Slavic girlfriend alone for the arguments, and she’s not blaming you alone for the arguments. Instead, you see it as a harmful habit that both of you need to concentrate on overcoming.

Research indicates that one of the most popular methods to find a love companion nowadays is through online dating, which is especially popular among heterosexual daters. Although the internet world offers many opportunities for networking, it can also be a cause of conflict in love relationships. How we use social media in particular might promote feelings of uneasiness, envy, and overall uncertainty. Therefore, it’s critical to communicate with a Slavic lady you met online about appropriate social media usage limits for your love engagement.

Let’s first consider social media’s possible benefits before discussing how to safeguard your love life from its dangers: It may serve as a means of communication for couples, particularly those in long-distance relationships; it can assist you and your Slavic lady save important moments and other memories, and it can help you gain a new perspective on your girlfriend.

Social media may be entertaining when you are celebrating your Slavic girlfriend in some manner, whether she received a promotion, participated in a race, or you are just sharing how lovely she is. It could also allow you to get to know your girlfriend in a new way. For instance, your Slavic lady’s friend could mention her in a picture taken years ago, before you ever met her. You may find this exciting since it offers you the option to view your Slavic woman from a different perspective.

The disadvantage of social media showing you a different side of your girlfriend is that you cannot connect with it. Perhaps it even represents a problematic habit, such as micro-cheating, or a behavior that isn’t strictly cheating but involves more covert activities like dishonesty, secrecy, or emotional contact with others.

What constitutes micro-cheating on social media is determined by the terms of your individual relationship agreement. However, it might take the shape of flirting—whether through comments, direct messages, or liking certain photos—using provocative emoticons or spending a significant amount of time engaged in digital exchanges that aren’t strictly wrong, but nonetheless consume emotional energy.

When someone is scrolling to the point that they are distracted when spending time with their girlfriend or entirely ignoring them, it is a hint that limits may be good. Find advice on how to set appropriate social media limits in your relationships below.

Think about your intentions

List the factors that influence the importance of social media in your relationship. If you don’t already know what your boundaries are, this will assist you in doing so. What motivates you to share and post? Is it a result of your pride in it? Do you usually discuss more personal areas of your life? Why don’t you publish anything about your relationship if you don’t? To gain her perspective, you might ask your Slavic woman the same questions.

Tell your Slavic girlfriend that you want to talk about boundaries
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It’s critical that you don’t catch your girlfriend off guard with a difficult talk she’s not prepared to have. To start a difficult conversation, choose one of the following options:

• “There’s something I want to discuss. Is this the right time?”
• “I believe that our views on how to use social media may differ. Have you got a moment to chat about it?”
• “Whenever I see you on social media, I get offended. Are you willing to discuss this further?”
• “Some of the things you have been putting on social media are difficult for me to understand. Would you be open to looking at a possible compromise here?”

Be about your feelings

Transparent communication fosters trust and unity within a relationship. In order for a successful compromise to be achieved, there must be no shaming, accusing, attacking, or condemning at this period.

By asking open-ended inquiries, you may express your concerns about your Slavic girlfriend’s social media activity. Rather than rebuking her, lean into her interest. When healthy compromise becomes an active part of a relationship, both sides feel comfortable, respected, and appreciated, and are therefore motivated to make requests and voice their points of view without fear of embarrassment, conflict, or rejection.

Respect your Slavic girlfriend’s online presence

It’s vital to realize that a relationship involves not just you but also your girlfriend, who may use social media in a completely different way than you do.

You may be an outgoing person who enjoys sharing details about your personal life, especially your relationship, with others. However, if your girlfriend isn’t the same way, you must accept her firm limitations and modify how you portray your relationship in public.

Set boundaries based on what works for you and your Slavic woman

There is no formal guideline for what a relationship should look like, and there is certainly no guideline for how couples should behave online. Therefore, it’s crucial to set boundaries based on what works for you and your Slavic woman rather than getting caught up in how something appears from the outside.

Unfortunately, people often overinterpret social media and give it more significance than it merits. Contrary to appearances, their actual relationship is significantly more essential.

It goes without saying that a variety of things, including social media, can enhance or undermine your contentment with your relationship. Being upfront and truthful about your emotions and limits, though, will go a long way.

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been dating a Slavic woman—three weeks, three months, or three years—communication is key to building and sustaining a strong relationship. Partners may, however, communicate substantially differently, which is both possible and very usual. Relationships with different communication styles can be difficult, but it’s not always a sign that something is wrong.

Are you tired of getting misunderstood? To bridge that gap, you’ll need to take the time to thoroughly comprehend and appreciate your Slavic girlfriend’s preferred communication style. You are far more likely to feel noticed, understood, and appreciated by your girlfriend if you understand her communication style and speak her language.

Understanding each other’s communication preferences not only makes daily interactions smoother but also helps you and your girlfriend fight well. If you are able to recognize your lady’s tendencies, sympathize with her, and build your relationship with her, you may easily find a solution to the problem.

Although the way you and your Slavic lady communicate may differ, how you both listen and what you take away from the conversation is what has the power to create or ruin a relationship. The various relationship communication styles are fully described here, along with practical advice for navigating each one.

Passive communication

People who are passive communicators often do not express their feelings or desires, preferring to let others do so. They may respond with phrases like “I’m alright with anything you want to do.” In essence, they lack the ability to refuse. This conduct adds to a habit of discounting your own ideas and feelings in favor of others, which can cause internal strife and dissatisfaction at not being taken seriously. Because of this, passive communicators frequently experience loneliness in relationships.

Aggressive communication

The primary goal of aggressive communicators is to dominate a discussion for the purpose of success, with little regard for the other person’s needs or feelings. These individuals frequently have an aggressive, demanding, volatile, threatening, and frightening demeanor. When challenged, they may get defensive, which makes conversations difficult at best.

Passive-aggressive communication

Passive-aggressive individuals are similar to passive communicators in that they don’t express their wants or emotions out loud. Passive-aggressive communicators will gripe to themselves rather than face a person or subject. They lack the ability to convey their feelings, use non-emotional facial expressions, and may even downplay the severity of the issue. For instance, a person who communicates in a passive-aggressive manner may decide to give their partner the silent treatment as a kind of lash-out rather than expressing their feelings.

Assertive communication

The best type of communication is assertive communication. People who are seen as assertive are adept at expressing their wants, recognizing their emotions, and accepting responsibility for their actions without blaming the other party. Additionally, those who are assertive communicators excel in asserting their own rights in a way that is direct, calm, and concise. People with an assertive communication style respect other people’s feelings and wants by using “I” statements during talks or debates, such as “I feel…” and “I need…”.

As was previously noted, just because you and your Slavic girlfriend may communicate differently doesn’t imply your relationship is destined to fail. Now that you’ve refined your communication skills, keep reading for some tips on how to handle your differences more successfully:

Have a backup plan

Sometimes conversations can rapidly devolve into conflicts, so it’s wise to plan your escape beforehand. In this way, everyone may relax and return to the conversation with clearer thinking. Additionally, doing this prevents you from upsetting your Slavic girlfriend, who may otherwise assume you don’t care about the issue at hand, since you can leave politely and quietly. So, despite the adage, it is occasionally OK to leave a conversation and go to bed furious, especially if it means you’ll be in a better frame of mind to address issues the following day.

Set personal boundaries

Even the most skilled communicators occasionally become irritated. When this happens, boundaries can be helpful—especially if it’s necessary to defuse a tense situation, moderate the conversation, and give both parties a chance to understand what has transpired. You and your Slavic lady should talk about personal boundaries beforehand, such as avoiding shouting at one another, to ensure that you have a plan in place that works for both of you in case things become hot. This will help you avoid disagreement in the heat of the moment.

“I” statements

Since “I” statements enable us to accept responsibility for our own feelings without assigning blame, they are an excellent tool for practicing assertive communication. Because she does not feel judged, your Slavic girlfriend is less likely to become defensive, which makes it simpler to have a constructive conversation. Even if your girlfriend needs to own up to her mistakes, it is advisable to start the conversation by explaining how the words or deeds affected you personally.

No to the silent treatment

Icing your Slavic girlfriend is not only upsetting, but because nothing is being handled, it may also prevent the relationship from moving on. The silent treatment certainly offers some respite in between conversations. However, in the long run, this does not provide any meaningful or practical remedies.

We’ve all experienced this at some time in our relationships: one moment you’re overjoyed with how things are going with your significant other, and the subsequent uncertainty rears its ugly head and casts a shadow over everything. Maybe your Slavic lady doesn’t respond to a text you sent her, or when you look back on a seemingly innocent remark she made, it doesn’t seem so clean. And before you know it, you’re beginning to have second thoughts about a new relationship you had such great hopes for. Fortunately, addressing your worries about your Slavic girlfriend and changing your perspective is equally important in overcoming uncertainty in a relationship.

If you’ve ever had relationship doubts only to come out the other side with your relationship still intact, you may be aware that a lot of uncertainty originates from within. That is, the issue, the actual uncertainty, and the ability to get over it might all arise from how you view the connection, not necessarily from its actual components. However, continually doubting your Slavic woman or a relationship can have a negative impact on your quality of life. Relationship experts explain the causes of doubt, why you can feel it in a relationship, and what you can do to prevent it from impairing your relationship and fidelity in the sections below.

Is it common to have concerns about a relationship?

It is okay to have doubts in a relationship since uncertainty is a natural aspect of being human. Relationship concerns may be more likely in fresher relationships, long-distance relationships, or persons who have a history of betrayal or abandoning. However, while such conditions certainly set the stage for doubt—that is, they establish a framework devoid of some aspect of security—doubt may exist in any relationship.

Because it’s common to put time and effort into a relationship and to worry about whether those resources are being used effectively, there will probably be a fair amount of doubt or skepticism present. And if you have a propensity to overthink relationships, this is double true.

This is what someone with an uneasy connection style would typically do. An individual with an insecure attachment type craves closeness and connection but is also terrified of it, which might cause them to harbor unfavorable views about their capacity for love and their capacity for happiness. In this situation, you could think that your girlfriend has the same opinions of you as you have of her, which could make you question if she genuinely wants to be with you.

Why are you having doubts about your relationship with a Slavic woman?

You feel afraid

Relationships are fraught with anxiety. There is a fear of intimacy, a fear of rejection, a fear of being abandoned, a fear of losing oneself, and a fear of losing the other person. And, even if everything else is going well, any of the following might make you lose faith in a woman or a relationship.

You’ve experienced trauma from previous relationships

If you’ve ever been abandoned by a fling or even a full-fledged significant other because you didn’t hear from them for a weekend, it stands to reason that an unanswered text message would trigger a flood of mistrust in any following relationship. When we start to fall for someone, all of our fears, old scars, and prior relationship traumas come to the surface.

So, if you’re prone to keeping a lady at arm’s length because you’re not sure if she’s as into things as you are—and you don’t want to have the rug ripped out from under you again by an unexpected rejection—know that you’re not alone. Doubt can be a fear-based defensive response to approaching someone.

You’re not sure if the woman is right for you

The all-too-common question, “How can I know whether my relationship is right?” might raise concerns because no one woman will be a perfect match. No one lady can provide you with everything. And in a culture that overvalues the importance of finding your soulmate it’s easy to become obsessed on your girlfriend’s flaws and question whether you should stay with her as a consequence.

This is frequently due to a lack of understanding about what you genuinely want out of a relationship. Once you’ve clearly determined your objectives in a significant other, you can stop looking for the “ideal” woman for you—which will almost always lead to doubt—and start looking for the appropriate woman for you, based on your realistic expectations for a relationship.

You’re not sure if you and your Slavic girlfriend have the same goals

Say everything is going well until your girlfriend casually discusses your future potential children. And that would be OK if you two had discussed having hypothetical children in the future, but you hadn’t. In truth, you never expected to have children, and the statement has made you realize that you and your Slavic girlfriend may not agree on some of life’s most fundamental concerns. The end result? There is a lot of doubt.

How can you overcome your doubts in a relationship with a Slavic woman?

Determine what you truly want for yourself

A lot of relationship uncertainty stems from you—and your inability to articulate what you want. So, take some time to clarify your goals and requirements in a relationship, whether through writing, meditation, counseling, or any other method that allows you to reach your deepest ideas.

Recognize whether doubt is a habit

Is doubt something you’ve had in all of your relationships? If this is the case, knowing how to overcome uncertainty in a relationship must begin with recognizing why it is a reoccurring trend. Perhaps you’re having self-doubt in relationships, and your inner voice is convincing you that you’re not deserving of the attention or affection you’re receiving, or that the relationship isn’t going as smoothly as you’d like to believe. In such scenario, it may be time to quit gaslighting yourself and start trusting yourself and your reality over the critical voice in your brain.

In other circumstances, uncertainty may emerge as a result of a different commitment issue. Being lost, dominated, abandoned, criticized, or rejected may cause you to have doubts about committing to a woman and having faith in a relationship. Simply knowing this truth can help you come to the conclusion that the uncertainty you’re experiencing is not the result of your connection at all, allowing you to let it go.

Have an open and honest dialogue with your Slavic girlfriend

If you don’t often have doubt, your gut may be signaling you to pay attention by sounding an internal alarm. Certain skepticisms are undoubtedly supported by circumstantial evidence of a partner’s actions that may call for explanation. In this case, talking openly and honestly with your girlfriend will be necessary to understand how to deal with doubt in a relationship.

Get clear on your future vision as a couple, and be honest with one another about whether you both agree on what you want, value, and see your life to be like together. This can help you alleviate concerns about whether your girlfriend is on the same page as you and erase any doubts about her actions or the motivation behind them.

Discuss your concerns with a trusted friend

Personal reflection and a talk with your Slavic girlfriend might sometimes fall short of assisting you in determining how to overcome doubts in a relationship. In this scenario, it may be beneficial to discuss your feelings with a close trusted friend. If they know you well, they may be able to remind you of what you’re actually seeking for in a relationship and throw light on whether the concerns you’re experiencing are valid or if they’re the result of fear or insecurity.