No matter how you slice it, online dating is daunting. With an overwhelming number of digital platforms and an endless stream of prospective partners, how will you ever stand out?
1. Know what you’re looking for.
Before diving into the online dating sea, you should be aware of what type of relationship you’re after. Whether it’s a no-strings-attached rendezvous, casual dating or a serious relationship, pick one and create your profile with that in mind.
2. Put yourself in the shoes of a potential match.
To take your online dating game to the next level, try putting yourself in your prospective partner’s shoes.
3. Show, don’t tell.
The number one mistake guys make is writing about their traits rather than demonstrating their traits. There’s a difference between saying “I’m a really funny guy,” and sharing a hilarious story on your profile. Think about what you want to communicate, and show that instead of flat out saying it. It’s also helpful to ask yourself, “What kind of introduction would I want to keep on reading?”
4. The best type of profile picture may not be what you think.
You may be surprised, but the worst picture you can post if you want women to respond is one of you smiling and looking at the camera. The best performing photos show a guy looking away from the camera, and not smiling.
For optimal results, add a photo of you in a social setting and another showing you doing something interesting. The key for the latter is to spark curiosity and create topics of conversation. Good photos, for instance, will show you backstage with a band or in a remote area less traveled-to.
5. Personalize your greeting.
Ditch the generic “hey, what’s up?” and opt for sending a personalized message. Putting thought into your initial greeting shows you’re interested and that you’ve taken time to read through her profile.
6. Converse as you would in real life — in complete words, in good taste.
When exchanging messages, it’s important to avoid text speak and physical compliments. Poor grammar and incorrect spelling are also a huge turn-off and make an awful first impression. If you want to stand out, get more creative and address their interests over their looks.
7. Don’t play games.
Online dating is a different experience for everyone, but there’s one rule dating specialists encourages you to follow: Don’t play games. No one wins. If you don’t like someone, be mature enough to tell them you aren’t interested. If you’re interested, don’t try to be unavailable or hard to get. If you’re honest and straight up and it doesn’t work, that’s okay — you’re filtering out people who don’t fit what you’re looking for.