Internet dating has come a long way. There’s no longer a stigma to finding love online. The Online Dating Association says it is now the largest single way in which relationships start in the UK. It definitely works, but to make the most of online dating here are the experts top 7 tips (source: WebMD).
1. Don’t be too choosy
When you are going through the reams of potential partners on the internet – or when you meet them on a date – it’s all too easy to have a shopping list mentality. ‘He’s too short, I don’t like her eyes, or he doesn’t make enough money’.
Try turning down the volume on your inner critic on a superficial front, you may just discover you’re a better judge of character, and are better able to decide if your date is someone that you connect with on a new level.
2. Be honest
It’s tempting to stretch the truth when writing your profile or use a photo from ten years ago. But the advice is not to do it, as your date may be disappointed when you meet in person. Just as your online dating profile should accurately represent who you really are, your dating encounters should be equally as authentic. Don’t pretend to be someone that you’re not in an effort to impress a potential partner. Be genuine, and let your character and charm speak for themselves.
3. Beware of exaggeration
Even if you are honest about yourself, expect a degree of exaggeration from potential partners. They are trying to sell themselves to you so may over egg their attributes and achievements.
They are bound to look better in their profile photo. No-one is going to post a picture of them at their worst. Beware phrases like ‘carrying a few extra pounds’ or ‘cuddly’. Read between the lines in profiles.
4. Narrow your focus
Online dating can be a real time-saver if you know exactly what you want. For example, if you definitely don’t want a partner with children, remove that option straight off. Likewise, if it’s important that a date lives in your area you can weed the rest out.
5. Stay safe
Never give out personal information or send money to anyone. Use your first name only and give personal details only when you have got to know each other well. Follow your instincts. If you get a bad vibe, steer clear.
Meet in a public place like a cafe or pub. Tell a friend where you are going and who with and when to expect you back. Make sure you don’t get drunk.
6. Less is more at first
Don’t give too much away too soon. Gradually reveal details about yourself and don’t post photos that are overly sexy.
7. Get ready for rejection
Don’t take a rejection to heart. Just because you didn’t connect with one date, it doesn’t mean it’s your fault. They may want someone who is a different age or lives closer to them.
It works both ways. You may like someone as a person, but feel no romantic connection to them – so feel free to say no to dates that you know won’t work.