Manners are apparently the very backbone of our society, but, despite this, dating online can feel like it’s full of people with bad manners and poor behavior. Tongues out in profile pictures, unsolicited nudes and toilet humor are a few ways to render yourself an online dating pariah. This article will help you get the lowdown on keeping those manners in ship shape.
How do you present yourself in your profile? Photos are usually the first thing prospective matches look at, so choose carefully to avoid defeat.
- No selfies. There is nothing attractive about posing in a mirror with a camera phone.
- Choose your photos wisely. Dating experts recommend uploading three up-to-date photos of you out and about.
- No bragging in your bio. Don’t brag too much about your qualifications and achievements because you are looking for someone to join you in life, not to scare and intimidate.
- Be truthful about your job. Never trust anyone who says they’re president of their own company. They’re probably all freelance writers, not bankers.
The pre-date chat
Once you’ve matched with someone, it’s hard to get the balance right during that initial messaging period. Here’s how to you show interest without appearing too keen, or — heaven forbid — rude.
- Don’t talk about sex. Dating experts say you shouldn’t dive in with talk of sex too early on. “Avoid full-on, obscene messages early on. And, definitely no dick pics or nudes. Keep it tucked away; we don’t want to see it yet.”
- No toilet humor. Toilet humor should be avoided at all costs.
- Don’t whinge. Don’t talk about your problems, politics or how much you hate your job, life or flatmate. Never complain or say anything negative or you’ll be seen as a negative type of person.
- Don’t mention money or problems. Money, ill health, politics, problems and sex are all conversation topics that should be avoided.
- Don’t get personal. Don’t reveal your secrets too early on.
Congratulations, you’ve managed to hold your matches attention and you’ve secured a date. Now it’s time to make a real impression, but make sure it’s for all the right reasons.
- Brush up on your table manners
- Don’t drink too much, or too little
- Be punctual
- Be polite
- Don’t talk about your ex.
- Don’t keep checking your phone.