Important tips for online dating success

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No replies to your emails? Too few profile views? Try these important online dating tips.

Use good pictures. There are thousands of people on these sites, and there is going to be someone similar to you who has better pictures. And he is going to get the woman you want. If you want to meet good people, you need to have good pictures. It’s that simple.

Your photos need to be clear and recent. Your dark, artsy photos are great as a supplement, but she needs to see what you look like in the light, without a hat, and without sunglasses. She needs to see you close up (a headshot), and from a little distance (a full length shot). If she can’t see what you really look like, you’re not going to get her phone number.

Write to people who are looking for someone like you. It is important to remember that online dating is not the same as online shopping. When you’re shopping, you can pick out whatever you like and make it yours. When you’re dating, the person you choose actually has some say in the matter.

Before you take the time to compose your message, look through her profile and try to view things from her perspective. Would she want to date you? Of course you’re great, but are you a great match for her? Do you fit all, or most, of what she’s looking for? And are you in her desired age range?

Ask good questions. This means you have to read her profile, and pay attention to what you read.  The questions you ask should be interesting to you, and personal enough to connect to her. “Your Asia photos are great! What was your favorite part of the trip?”

Don’t be a stalker. While you are waiting for her reply, go on with your busy life. Don’t look at her profile to see if she has logged in. Don’t hover over your sent mail folder to see if she’s read your message. Remember that you don’t know this person at all, and you shouldn’t have any expectations of when she should reply.

Source: Your Tango

Valentine’s Day celebration in Russia and Ukraine

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Valentine’s Day is coming up! Each year on February 14th, many people exchange cards, candy, gifts or flowers with their special “valentine.” In Russia and Ukraine Valentine’s Day is a relatively new, but one of the most popular romantic holidays.

What Gifts are Popular in Russia and Ukraine on Valentine’s Day?

Valentine’s Day in Russia and Ukraine is all about expressing your love and care to your significant other. This means that you can get as creative as you like when it comes to gifts. Any gift that conveys romantic feelings will be very well received. For example, a little memorable souvenir, such as a framed picture of you both having fun, or a poem written for your significant other will make a perfect Valentine’s Day gift.

Giving flowers is considered one of the most romantic gestures in Russia. Russian and Ukrainian women love flowers! A bunch of fresh roses, tulips, orchids or any other flowers will certainly bring a smile to her face. If your lady has a sweet tooth she will most definitely like a box of chocolates.

How Do Russians Celebrate Valentine’s Day?

There are no specific Russian/Ukrainian traditions associated with this holiday. Just remember to let your imagination go and make your celebration as romantic and as memorable as you like. Russians love romance. These are just a few suggestions to warm up your imagination:

• Enjoy a homemade candle lit dinner with a glass of good wine

• Cuddle up watching an old romantic movie (preferably in Russian – so you can practice your Russian language skills )

• Go for a romantic walk in the park, or a beach holding hands and sharing your childhood stories

• Reserve a table at a fancy restaurant and surprise your sweetheart

• Write romantic letters to each other

Valentine’s Day Was Banned in Belgorod

Unfortunately, not every city in Russia welcomes Valentine’s Day. Belgorod, a small city in western Russia banned Valentine’s Day a couple of years ago.

Grigory Bolotnov, a spokesman for the governor’s office, stated that celebrating Valentine’s Day is not a Russian tradition and it does not teach good moral values to Russian youth. Belgorod archbishop supported governor’s decision to cancel the holiday.

How to Wish Happy Valentine’s Day in Russian

It might be a great idea for you to wish a Happy Valentine’s Day to your Russian or Ukrainian woman. Here is how to write it in Russian:

С Днём Святого Валентина! [s DNYOM svya-TO-va va-lyen-TEE-na] Happy Valentine’s Day!

Have a Happy Valentine’s Day – only with your loved ones!

Source: Fun Russian

Online dating statistics and interesting facts

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Over the past few years, online dating has increasingly become a more widely accepted way of meeting a future partner and today, as many as one in five relationships are believed to begin online. You will probably be surprised to learn that:

  • Messages on a dating service that used words associated with laughing like ‘haha’ and ‘lol’ have a 17% higher chance of ending in an exchange of phone numbers.
  • You are 56% less likely to get a person’s number if you use the word ‘sorry’ in your opening line when you message someone on a dating service.
  • 61% of adults who have tried online dating agree that it is easier and more efficient than other ways of meeting people.
  • 31% of online daters agree that online dating keeps people from settling down, because they always have options for people to date.
  • 2 spelling errors in a man’s profile will reduce the chances of a response by 14% from a women. Spelling errors by women don’t affect their chances of getting a response.
  • Women receive 17 times as many messages as men on dating services.
  • Men use 21.9% more words than women do in their responses to questions about their dating profile.
  • 33% of online daters have never actually gone a date with someone they met through a dating service.
  • 20% of online daters have had someone for help with their dating profile. 5% of Americans who are in a marriage or committed relationship say they met their significant other online.
  • Generally on a dating service the most attractive men send the most messages.
  • Women are much less likely than men to initiate contact on a dating service.
  • Women are 2.5x more likely than a man to receive a response if they initiate contact.
  • Members of dating services who share photos of themselves laughing have over 3 times more chances of communicating with other members.
  • Your dating profile is judge in part based on the last profile the person saw before yours. If it is more attractive then yours will be considered more attractive.
  • People looking for long-term relationships tend to log into their dating service the most on Tuesdays at 2pm. For younger singles and those looking to hookup the best time to find them online is 9pm.
  • 33% of women and 20% of men retouch photos for their dating profile. Most do slight tweaking like removing blemishes, whiten teeth, and/or change skin tone.
  • 47% of men and 27% of women have encountered a first date who looked nothing like their dating profile image.

Source: Dating Sites Review

Online dating safety rules

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The vast majority of people using dating sites are sincere and honest in the information they provide and in their reasons for joining. However, there are exceptions, and you need to be aware of how to keep yourself – and your bank account and savings – protected while meeting people online. 

The risks:

  • Fraud, when people appeal appeal to your better nature to help them out of an ‘unfortunate situation’ by sending money.
  • People masquerading as somebody who they are not.
  • Spam, selling or fraud, especially romance fraud.
  • Phishing emails claiming to be from an online dating site and encouraging you to divulge personal information.

Creating your online dating profile: protect your identity and personal information

  • Choose a username that doesn’t let everyone know who you are. Don’t include your surname or any other identifying information such as your place of work either in your profile or when you first make contact.
  • Keep contact details private. Stay in control when it comes to how and when you share information. Don’t include your contact information such as your email address, home address, or phone number in your profile or initial communications. Take things slowly and share more information when you feel comfortable doing so. It is impossible to get back information once you have given it away.
  • Stop communicating with anyone who attempts to pressure you into providing your personal or financial information or who seems to be trying to trick you into providing it. If this happens contact the dating provider immediately to not only protect yourself but other users too.

 Connecting with new people online

Get to know people, take your time and trust your instincts. Act with caution and learn more about someone before contacting her outside of the dating site. Dating services run mail and chat so you can get to know people in a safer and [monitored/controlled] way. They do it to protect you, not to make money. Use their platform and the added security it gives. If and when you do decide to share an e-mail address think about creating a separate and anonymous email address.

Take your time

Sometimes when you’re excited about someone, your instincts can be confused by strong feelings. Take care and take your time when you talk about yourself. You don’t need to give out your life-story the first time you chat – and you shouldn’t. There will be plenty of time to share such details if your relationship develops.

Be responsible and do your own research

There is a limit to an online dating provider’s ability to check the backgrounds of users and verify the information they provide. They cannot do a criminal records check on every user. And a person can become a problem without having a record. Therefore, don’t get a false sense of security because you’re on a dating site; do your own research to learn more about someone and make informed decisions before you decide to meet. Check to see if the person you’re interested in is on other social networking sites like Facebook, do a web search to see if there are other records of the person online, and if possible use google image search to check the profile photos.

Money requests are your red light

Why would someone need to borrow money off somebody they have never met, or only just met? There is no reason for anyone to ask you for money or your financial information, whatever sad or sob story they give. Always keep your bank and account information private. Stop all contact immediately and report the matter to the dating site.

Report unacceptable or suspicious behavior

Nobody should have to put up with offensive, insulting and threatening behavior online any more than they should or would if talking to someone in a bar or café. Trust your instincts and immediately stop communicating with anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable or apprehensive. Never feel embarrassed to report a problem to the dating service. You are helping them and doing other users a favor.

Source: Get Safe Online

New Year’s traditions in Russia

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For many countries, the majority of winter holidays have passed, but this is not the case in Russia!  In fact, Russian New Year’s Eve trumps Christmas in importance, with major celebrations occurring all over the country in recognition of the holiday.

There are actually two New Year’s holidays celebrated in Russia.  The “New” New Year’s celebrations occur as most would expect, on December 31st and January 1st.

Russia’s “Old” New Year is celebrated on January 14th according to the Orthodox calendar. This celebration is the smaller of the two New Year’s holidays and Russians usually spend the day with family.

To celebrate this holiday, many Russians attend concerts or fireworks displays, with the largest located at the Red Square.  On December 31st, most families have a very late dinner including Russian salads, herring, and sparkling wine.  A short presidential address comes on TV at 11:55pm local time in each of Russia’s time zones, and the president reflects on achievements from the last year.  At midnight, the Kremlin Spasskaya Clock Tower chimes and the Russian national anthem begins.  Now is when the festivities really begin! Many Russians spend December 31st with family and only leave the house after midnight to see friends or enjoy New Year’s Eve parties and nightlife.

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Ded Moroz and Snegurochka

The West may have Santa Claus, but he can hardly compete with “Ded Moroz” (Grandfather Frost) or his granddaughter, “Snegurochka” (the Snow Maiden). Unlike Santa Claus, Ded Moroz is not afraid to show his face and often stops by holiday parties with Snegurochka to deliver presents in person. Ded Moroz maintains his residence near the town of Veliky Ustyug (in the Vologda Region); Snegurochka supposedly resides in Kostroma, on the Volga.

The “yolka”

Christmas trees were banned shortly after the revolution but were reintroduced as the novogodnaya yolka (New Year’s tree) in 1935 as a secular holiday symbol.  Trees tend to be small and are often made of plastic, but they are still symbolic and important gathering symbols for Russians.

Celebrities, Grandfather Frost and steam

Many countries have popular traditional holiday films, but few can match up with the song and steam of the Soviet classic, The Irony of Fate or Have a Nice Bath (1975). Zhenya is engaged and plans on spending his New Year’s Eve with his fiancée. However, he first must go to the sauna, as per tradition with his friends. They all get intoxicated and Zhenya ends up on a plane to Leningrad. He drunkenly tells a taxi driver to take him to Third Builder’s Street, where he lives in Moscow. Remarkably the building looks the same and his key fits. He passes out in the apartment and is awakened by the unsuspecting Nadya. They fall in love, and Russians still can’t get enough of this film. Television shows such as Goluboi Ogonyok (Little Blue Light), Pesnya Goda (Song of the Year; features most top-tier celebrities) and the children’s filmMorozko (Grandfather Frost) are additional holiday staples.

Salads

New Year’s just isn’t New Year’s without the salads. We’re not taking about light green salads either, but mayonnaise-infused and protein-thick works of art. Russians consume 2.5 kilograms of mayonnaise annually and nowhere is it celebrated more than on the holiday table. Olivier salad is usually made with mayonnaise, potatoes, carrots, pickles, green peas, eggs and chicken or bologna. New Year’s literally doesn’t exist if this salad is not on your table. Selyodka pod Shuboi, or “Herring under a Fur Coat” is a layered carnival filled with herring, potatoes, carrots, beets, onions and mayonnaise. The beets give the salad its purplish color.

Mandarin oranges

Supposedly this tradition began back in the reign of Nicholas II. However, it was discontinued for decades due to the Soviet Union’s difficulty in growing or importing them. It was revived around the 1970s and remains a staple on every Russian New Year’s table.

Champagne and caviar

Nothing said “proletarian” in the worker’s paradise more than champagne and caviar. While these items were in shorter supply during the Soviet period, it was then that they became part of the New Year’s tradition. The champagne is usually the “Sovietskoye” variety, available everywhere from Kamchatka to Brighton Beach. The caviar is usually red and served on buttered bread.

A midnight date with Putin

Regardless of their political affiliations, Russians around the world tune in to hear the Russian president offer his wishes for the upcoming year. Once he finishes, the clock tower on Red Square chimes, fireworks burst into the air and the New Year officially begins.

Not leaving the house until AFTER midnight to visit friends and walk around the city

For Russians, New Year’s is a family holiday and celebrations take place with close relatives on the evening of Dec. 31 with traditional toasts to say goodbye to the passing year. Phone calls are made to relatives that live far away. It is only after midnight that people begin the real partying. Many clubs only begin their main events at 00:30 or later.

Fireworks

As one person told me, it isn’t New Year’s if you don’t see the equivalent of a small country’s budget blown up in fireworks. The first New Year’s holiday I spent in Russia, in the industrial city of Tolyatti, involved hours of celebrating at home before going out after midnight with the whole family to see the citizenry declare war on the central square. The fireworks display was intense, loud and bright and is an integral part of any Russian New Year’s holiday.  

New Year’s Eve is just the beginning

Perhaps the best part about Russian New Year’s is that it’s not back to work the next day or even the day after. In 2015 Russians have until Jan. 12 before they have to report back to the office. That’s 11 days to shake off their hangovers.

 
Source: Russia beyond the headlines, Cultural awareness

Fundamental facts about online dating

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We gleaned a handful of fundamental facts that should better prepare you for any online dating adventures ahead!

It works

According to one of the relationship studies, finding your partner online is quickly catching up to more “traditional” ways of meeting partners. In fact, 22% of those surveyed say they met their current partners online, second only to meeting people through mutual friends at 24%.

(Almost) everyone lies

We’re not talking about total misrepresentation, but rather embellishments to make a profile stand out in the crowd. Someone, for instance, might say they’re 35 instead of 36 to not get filtered out of demographics searches on dating sites.

Approach profiles like resumes

It’s good to remember that people create online dating profiles to showcase their best sides, rather than bear out all of their mundane life details. For that reason, sift through online dating profiles with the discerning eye of an employer examining a stack of resumes. When you find someone who looks like a decent fit, don’t assume that they’re exactly like the picture they paint in their profile. You’ll get a better sense of who they are during in-person “interviews.”

Beware the hyperpersonal effect

When you suddenly feel a deep connection with someone you’ve only briefly interacted with online, don’t start fantasizing about a blissful future together. The hyperpersonal effect can easily spoil your first in-person date if you’ve built up an idealized version of a potential partner in your mind.

Disappointment happens

Yes, online dating works, but it isn’t foolproof. While online dating is a relatively quick and easy way to meet people, it only takes care of the first dating step.

But maybe the bottom-line truth about online dating is that, when you really think about, it isn’t all that different from “real world” dating. Either way, you meet somebody, hang out and hope for the best.

Source: Huffingtonpost

Quick tips for choosing a nice profile picture

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You can win or lose a person’s attention with your profile pictures, and it’s not because of your looks. What you’re doing in the pictures can affect how you’re perceived, and with the right pictures, you might be able to catch a few more eyes and invites in your inbox.

Pictures showing your hobbies, your sense of humor, your full life, pets, and interests increase your odds in meeting more ladies. More than any selfie, these profile pictures show people how you’re unique and interesting. They tell us that we have things in common with you, lots to talk about, and that it looks like fun to hang out with you.

The most useful online dating profile pictures

Are flattering. Yes: duh. But tons of people post deliberately unflattering photos, looking super drunk, making ugly faces, or whatever. Sometimes it’s for humorous effect, but you might just beat someone to the punch by giving a reason to be rejected. But what’s the point of online dating, then?

Are genuine. Happiness is attractive! Multiple stone-faced selfies in the gym mirror makes anyone look dull. And five emo-pout photos in a row get tiresome. Show people that you like to be happy.

Are accurate and recent. Some people choose photos that make them seem “better looking” in some way. They might hide their beer gut, crooked teeth, or bald spot. This is a major bummer for two reasons:

  1. When you choose a deceptive profile picture, and then meet a date in person, they’ll see that you lied. Lying by omission is not a good way to start a relationship—but you’ll probably not make it to a second date at all.
  2. You might be losing opportunities to meet people who like your so-called flaws! Crooked teeth can be raffish, bald can be sexy, and some extra weight can be great for cuddling. There are many walks of life out there!

Show your physical appearance and age with honesty. People will find your self-confidence really attractive.

Online dating is one place where you get to be yourself. Be who you are—so the right person can find you!

Source: Lifehacker

7 perks of dating Russian girls

The main perks of dating a Russian girl are the same as the advantages of being in a relationship with a gorgeous model who treats you like a king. Who wouldn’t want to do it?

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7 perks of dating Russian girls:

  1. They love being in a relationship. The Russian culture gives a huge value to having a good relationship. For most women, this is the highest value before money, career, or even education. Being in a happy and loving relationship is like winning a lottery for Russian girls.
  2. They cook. Feeding her man is considered a woman’s obligation in Russia. Russians don’t believe in microwavable meals and women still cook for men from natural products. They actually enjoy it!
  3. Russian girls are stunning. Girls from Russia are crazy about their looks. They spend hours daily to look beautiful: skin, hair, makeup. They love wearing pretty dresses and high heels. The type of girls you could be dating look the same. Russian girls dress and look like models from the catwalk in daily life.
  4. They like being feminine. Everything you know about femininity, you will find in girls from the Russian Federation. They are warm and welcoming, gentle and sweet.
  5. They are devoted. Russian women are fully devoted to their partners. If you are dating a Russian girl, she is unlikely to dump you or leave you, because she dreams to become a wife and a mother, which has a very high value in their culture.
  6. They are direct. In their culture, people say what they think without much political correctness. Some people don’t feel comfortable with that but others find it extremely refreshing.
  7. They are resilient. Girls from the former USSR are used to more unstable life and don’t get upset easily. They are used to problem-solving, which is a great quality in a potential partner.

Source: Quora

Online dating flirting tips

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Learning how to flirt online is a skill every man needs in the digital age. Here are some basic tips to help you level up your online game.

Make a joke about her profile

One way that you can start out learning how to flirt online is making a playful joke about something in her profile. This is a good way for the two of you to start getting to know each other in a relaxed fashion. You want to start out with a playful reference to something in her profile is to show her that you’ve read it and that you paid attention to it. What’s more, making a playful reference to something on her profile can let her know that the two of you have common interests.

Use emoticons

Using emoticons is a great way of showing you’re playful and fun. It’s how you keep things light, how you let her know that you’re kidding around. Go one step further and get a solid bench of emojis that you like to use. You don’t have to overdo it here: Just a couple or a few thrown in here and there is going to go a long way toward communicating the playful mood you want to cultivate when you’re flirting with a girl online.

Move on to be challenging

Just being funny and having things in common with her isn’t going to keep you out of the friend zone, however. Try flirting with her in ways that say “You have to impress me.” That you’re not going to go for just any pretty face. This communicates confidence while also creating sexual tension between the two of you. It also sets you apart — how many men do you think are consciously pushing back a little?

Move the conversation from the dating website to social media

You need to move the conversation from the dating site to social media. Her social network profile is going to tell you a lot more about who she really is than self-reported data on a dating site. You can see what kinds of things she posts, what kind of people she’s friends with and whether or not she, on average, is displaying high-value behaviors or low-value behaviors. These are all things that are a lot harder to suss out when you’re dealing with people on a dating site where they’re generally putting their “best foot forward.”

Seal the date in Skype

The whole point of online dating and flirting is to get a date and see each other in real life. Skype is a great way to make it possible for international couples. You generally just want to play, flirt and banter when you’re online, saving the more “meaty” conversations for when the two of you are together. This is because most of communication isn’t about the words you use — it’s equally about your body language and tone of voice.

Source: TheArtOfCharm

How to tell someone you are not interested

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One of the most awkward experiences in online dating is rejecting someone who’s expressed interest in you. No one likes rejection, and simultaneously, no one likes to be the bearer of bad news. However, saying “thanks, but no thanks” is not only good online dating etiquette; it’s also an important part of your search for the person who you’re truly interested in.

After receiving the very first email from someone

Say that you get an email from someone, and you can tell immediately that you have no interest in communicating with that person. Here are the Internet-appropriate ways to say no:

  • Be brief, direct, and kind. Try something like, “Thank you for your interest but I don’t see us as a match. Wishing you all the best in your search.”
  • Don’t reply at all, ever. Just delete the message. In Internet-speak, this tactic is completely understood to mean “Not interested at all, ever.”

And for the record, the inappropriate ways to say no include:

  • Deleting without opening. Again if this email is the first communication from a prospect, read it. The person spent the time to write it, so take the few seconds to read it.
  • Sending an email saying “Not on your life, you loser.”
  • Using the block feature immediately. If the first inquiry was polite, you have no reason to take out the big guns so early. Even if you don’t want any further emails from that person, why slap him or her in the face because that is what it feels like to be blocked.

In the middle of an IM exchange

Say that you’re in the middle of an Instant Messaging (IM) exchange, and you realize that the prospect just isn’t a match. The Internet-appropriate action to take is to simply say

“I need to stop now. I’ve enjoyed chatting with you, but I don’t think we’re a match. I don’t want to waste any more of your time. Best of luck in your search.” Wait for a reply. If it’s an argument telling you why you are a match, simply sign off. Don’t engage in further IMs.

And for the record, the inappropriate actions are:

  • Poofing — just breaking off the conversation in mid-stream and logging off. Would you hang up the phone in mid-conversation if you got bored?
  • Saying “Gotta go” and logging off.
  • Responding with anger or obscenities, even if some were directed at you.
  • Sending a pornographic photo for shock value.

Regarding those first two actions, your prospect would probably think you had computer problems and keep trying to reach you, which isn’t what you want. Regarding the third action, no stranger is worth any emotional investment on your part, especially negative ones. Don’t go away mad. Just go away. And regarding the porno action, sending pornographic material can be construed as harassment and get you into a heap of legal trouble.

When people are clueless

Occasionally, you’ll run into people who just won’t stop contacting you even after you’ve rejected them. Most often, people don’t let go because they’ve developed fantasies from your photo and essay. When you start exchanging messages, the fantasies grow. If you’re still anonymous, the situation probably isn’t dangerous, but you may still feel uncomfortable.

Avoid arguments

When your goal is to make a clean break from the person who won’t let go (or any prospect, for that matter), never argue or defend yourself. You have to accept the bad guy or girl role unless you want to create an even angrier person out of your former prospect.

Realize that many people forget how little time they actually have invested in their exchanges and that they don’t have a good perspective on their circumstances.

If all else fails, let them down hard

When someone just won’t quit bothering you and all else fails, you have to dispense with being polite. Just as dogs get only one bite (actually, they don’t get any free bites), your discouraged suitor gets only one “apology” from you. Then it’s over, babe.

The following line is pretty darn effective but only use it as a last resort:

“You need to know that if you attempt to contact me again, I’ll report your activities as an abuse to the dating site. The site will then begin to monitor all your email messages and kick you off the system if it doesn’t like what you’re writing.”

Afterward, break off the communication. From then on, your approach is no reply, no comment, no nothing.

Source: Dummies